Sunday, October 19, 2014

What My Makeup Taught Me About My Life {Hint: It Wasn't Pretty}

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If anyone can teach a life lesson through makeup, it's me.

Are you ready?

I recently had a girls day with one of my best friends. We spent the afternoon brunching and bubbling, and afterward I decided to take myself shopping for some new makeup. I had declared it a total indulgence day, and I was super excited to splurge on myself. Buying new makeup has always been one of those things I put off. I'm not sure why, because I LOVE getting dolled up, but I am a creature of habit and I never get too experimental once I find something that works for me. So, for the longest time, I was wearing the same old stuff, which embarrassingly enough I had not replaced in forever. It was to the point where my bronzer was totally empty except for a few smashed up pieces in the corner of the palette that I tried to gracefully dig out every morning in a caffeine-less haze. (Can you see me covering my eyes in shame?)

In my taxi ride up to Lord and Taylor, I started digging through my makeup pouch to take full stock of what I needed. As I opened each palette, my eyes grew wider and wider. Compact powder? Nearly finished and way too old for my liking. Concealer? Couldn't even locate it and can't even remember the last time I actually used it. Lip gloss? Down to the wire. Barely a drop left. I shuddered to think about the last time I actually washed my brushes. Now, don't get me wrong, I love makeup and I wear it daily, but it quickly occurred to me that I had been dealing with the bare minimum for a long time. I was immediately reminded of another incident a few weeks ago. My favorite pair of nude heels started to get worn out and I went to the same store to buy an identical, brand new pair. You know when a pair of shoes fits so well they feel like they were built for your feet? When I got to the counter, I showed the girl the pair I had on. She gasped when I told her I wanted to keep them. "But you're getting a brand new pair! Throw those old ones AWAY! Look at them!" she shouted. I looked down at the pair I had been stomping around the city in and I was horrified. They were so beat up that the tips were beginning to fray. Why hadn't I replaced these shoes sooner!? They weren't expensive.

I was just putting myself off.

My life has been so absolutely crazy these past few years while I was working my full-time job and building my brand and coaching practice that a lot of things got sent to the back burner.  Like my makeup. And my nude heels. And at times, my health and wellness. Now that I've eliminated that full-time job, I realize how much of a block it was for me. I realize how much more clarity and energy I have. I realize what it's like to actually live (and sometimes, living just happens to come in the form of a very expensive trip to the Chanel counter). 

So, my loves, lesson learned here? Pay attention to the things that matter to you. There is always time to focus on yourself, even when it feels like you can barely come up for air. Don't be the girl with the broken bronzer! Figure out what's blocking you, and release it. It may not happen overnight, but you can absolutely start coming up with a plan to make it happen. And the minute you begin to do it, you'll feel more empowered than you could ever imagine.

So, $271 later at the Chanel counter, I began to piece my life, and my bronzer, back together.

With love and bubbles,
Cara

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Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Are You Scared of Being Called Selfish? Read This.

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During one of my recent group coaching workshops, we got into a pretty intense discussion about the topic of selfishness. Have you ever been scared to do something because you are afraid of someone calling you selfish? Or worse, secretly thinking it? Are you nervous to say no, or put yourself first because you feel guilty for it?

This is something I personally struggled with for years and I see it among many of my clients as well. First let me say this: it's not a bad thing to be worried about this. It shows that we are all caring, nurturing women who want to see others happy.

But when does other people's happiness put our own happiness at risk?

Think about that for a second. If you're miserable, unfulfilled, and exhausted, what's the point of being there for someone else? Doesn't it kind of defeat the purpose?

I am in no way saying you should stop caring about other people. But you've got to consider yourself along the way. What if you started replacing the word "selfish" with "self-love?" What if every time you beat yourself up for sleeping in, calling out sick, declining a dinner date, or spending a day indulging in whatever the hell you want, you viewed it as an act of self-love?

Try it out and see how it feels.

With love and bubbles,
Cara

Monday, September 1, 2014

Why You Must Indulge and Spoil Yourself as Often as Possible

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Happy Labor Day (if you're celebrating in the U.S.)! No matter what your work is, I know you bust your butt, so I want to wish you an extra special sparkly day of rest and rejuvenation today. I slept in until 9 am. That's like huge for me. And I loved every minute of it!

This holiday also got me thinking. Why do we wait to celebrate ourselves? Why do we have a special holiday that only rolls around once a year to honor the fact that we work so hard?

If you know me, you know I love to indulge as often as possible. I'll order a glass of champagne on a Tuesday afternoon just because. I'll treat myself to a blow dry and a massage for no reason other than the fact that I want to feel good. I'll splurge on a gorgeous pair of sparkly, fancy heels because I think they're pretty. And you know what? All of those things I mentioned are usually met with a question or comment by others.

"Why are you drinking champagne today? Are you celebrating something?"

"Oooh, a massage and blowout. You're really spoiling yourself, huh?"

"Why are you buying those shoes? Do you have a wedding coming up?"

Why do we always have to have a reason? Why can't we just treat ourselves like a queen every chance we get?

I don't know about you, but I'm tired of making an excuse for myself. This is my lifestyle, and it feels damn good. I work my tail off and I refuse to wait until a national holiday to celebrate that.

I encourage you to start doing the same. How can you add indulgence, luxury, and glamour to your life? Say it out loud and declare it to The Universe! I want to see you sparkle every day. You are a Champagne Girl, aren't you? ;)

Indulgently yours,
Cara

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

20 Ways to Channel Your Inner Champagne Girl

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I believe that every woman has an inner "Champagne Girl" deep within her. This is the part of ourselves that is fearless, fabulous, glamorous and inspired. By learning to channel her, you'll be able to add more effervescence to your life and your career!

Use my 20 tips to channel yours:

1. Celebrate something every day. No matter how big or small. Bonus points if you toast yourself with a gorgeous glass of champagne.

2. Indulge in something you love at least once a week. A pedicure, massage, blow dry, yoga class, etc. You deserve nothing less.

3. Turn off your phone for one hour each evening. We live in a world where we are on high alert at all times. Whether its the ping of a Facebook notification, a text message that you feel requires an immediate response, or emails delivered to our phone, we're constantly jolted by sounds that need our attention. By giving yourself a "tech-free" hour each night, you'll feel more at ease and sleep better. Champagne Girls need their beauty sleep!

4. Make an effort to look your best every single day. From the lipstick we choose to the way we accessorize our outfits, our personal style is a reflection of who we are in the world. And when you look good, you feel great.

5. Fill your home with fresh flowers as often as possible.

6. Do something outside of your comfort zone once a month. Try a new class at the gym, sign up for a course, volunteer for a local charity. Stretch yourself so you can continually grow and expand. I'm personally about to channel my inner Carrie Bradshaw and take at trapeze course on the West Side Highway soon. Join me!

7. Invest in yourself. Do not be cheap with yourself. Invest in whatever you need to grow: courses, a mentor, a vacation, a luxury designer handbag, a killer outfit for job interviews or dinner dates, etc. Note: this doesn't mean to go on mindless shopping sprees. Choose carefully what matters most to you and treat yourself!

8. Release what drains you. Life is too short to be surrounded by people or situations that do not bring you total joy. If someone is sucking the life out of you and making you feel like garbage, it's time to say buh-bye!

9. Travel. Open yourself up to new cultures and experiences. There is a big, beautiful world out there waiting for you. Go soak in every drop of it. If you can't afford to travel right now, immerse yourself in cultures in other ways. Go to a museum, dine out and enjoy a type of food you've never tried, etc.

10. Stop "blind shopping." As fun as it is to spontaneously treat yourself to things, take notice of when you're "blind shopping." Spend money on things you will put to good use rather than frivolous impulse buys. Respect the money you work hard for.

11. Make gratitude a daily practice. Be thankful for every single thing you have. Even on the bad days. Especially on the bad days.

12. Treat yourself to gorgeous underwear. When you know you're a wearing soft, delicate bra and underwear, you feel more connected to your feminine essence. And there is major power there.

13. Help others as often as you can. Do not hoard knowledge, opportunities, or connections. When you help others, it comes back to you ten fold. There is enough sparkle to go around!

14. Meditate. Even if you can only devote five minutes a day. Clearing your mind and making the time for yourself is invaluable. If you haven't read my latest book, pick it up and make sure you read the last chapter. I go into meditation and its benefits and how it can actually unlock the most creative, productive parts of yourself (I couldn't do half of what I do if I didn't spend time clearing my head!).

15. Find your voice. Stop biting your tongue and hiding your feelings. You can and should eloquently express yourself as often as you like.

16. Take a leap of faith. Do the thing you're most afraid of. It's the thing that will change your life for the better.

17. Connect. There is a huge, fabulous world of women out there just like you. They share your desires, fears, and dreams. Find them and connect with them. Build your tribe.

18. Create a "glam ritual." Before you go out at night, pour yourself a glass of champagne, make a playlist of your favorite songs, and set up a gorgeous space to do your hair and makeup and get ready.

19. Wear perfume. Find a few signature scents for each season that you absolutely adore. A spritz of perfume adds an instant dose of glamour. Bonus points if you wear it to bed (I do!)

20. Live inspired. Every day is a gift filled with beauty and inspiration. Look for it daily.


With love and bubbles,
Cara
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Sunday, August 24, 2014

Are You Open to Receive?

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This is a question I love asking my clients: Are you open to receive? "Receive what?" they usually ask. "Is it an object? A gift?" Receiving comes in many forms, but we have to clear our energy and open ourselves to it before it can actually happen.

Here's a quick visualization exercise I'd like you to do. Find a comfortable seated position and close your eyes. Inhale a big, deep breath. Exhale. Inhale again, exhale. With your eyes closed, let your mind wander. Allow it to take you to any place in the world. A place that feels safe and lush (mine happens to be the designer boutiques on King's Road in London, but that's just me.) Take notice of what you see. Is it sunny? Cloudy? Are you in another city? Another time period? Who is around you? Explore this place for a few moments, with your eyes still closed, inhaling and exhaling deeply. This place should feel amazing. It should feel like home.

Hopefully I haven't lost you yet. I know this stuff sounds hippy dippy, but stay with me. Please. 

Continue to visualize this fabulous place, and while you're picturing it, allow your inner muse to surface. If you've heard me talk about your inner muse, then you know exactly who she is. She is the woman deep inside of you who lives with purpose and passion. She is filled with ease and elegance. She is pure in her intentions. She is not fearful or anxious. She is the truest part of yourself. She is your inspiration. She is your guide.

Envision your inner muse walking toward you. You're about to meet her. What does it feel like? What does she look like? Take notice of her presence.

Imagine her giving you a message. What is she telling you? What do you need to know? She has the answer, and she's giving it to you right now. What does she want for you? What did she say?

Continue to breathe in and out, and hold her message in your mind for a few more moments. When you're ready, slowly open your eyes and return to your present space. Spend a few moments absorbing what just happened and allowing yourself to fully come-to. Write down the message your inner muse gave you and take some notes about the experience.

Feel free to return to this exercise any time you feel lost, anxious, or confused. Remember ladies, you can receive at any time. You just have to be open.

With love and bubbles,
Cara



Sunday, August 3, 2014

The #1 Reason You Are Unhappy

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Happiness is a massive discussion. And I don't intend to cover all areas in this post, but I do want to share something with you. In fact, what I'm about to share just may change your life.

Yes, it's that real.

A few short years ago, my life was in complete disarray. It felt like everything within my reach was crumbling and I had absolutely no control over my circumstances or my emotions. Weight issues, a job that sucked the life out of me, credit card debt through the roof, a relationship that made me second guess myself on a daily basis, and zero plans for the future outside of being trapped in a corporate job that did nothing other than supply me with money to go fuel my shopping addiction.

Sounds pretty bleak, huh? It was.

It took a lot of work to crawl out of that mess. But I did it. And can you guess what my first step was?

Facing my fears.

Fear of opening up my credit card statements. Fear of ending my relationship. Fear of finally taking control of my health and wellness. Fear of not walking into Louis Vuitton every time I got paid. Fear of creating a new and satisfying career and actually getting the balls to pursue it. Fear of living a life that was authentic.

The minute I faced those fears, and developed the courage to walk through them, I discovered happiness. As I tackled each area of my life, it felt like the skies opened up and angels sang to me. Literally. It was as if someone removed a blindfold from my eyes. It was slow, but it happened. For the first time in my life, I was happy.

So if you're feeling trapped, miserable, stuck, depressed, or lost, please know that everything is completely fixable.

You've just got to become fearless.

With love and bubbles,
Cara

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Thursday, July 3, 2014

Confession: I Do Not Have My Sh*t Together

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Last week, I was chatting with one of my clients and she said something very interesting. We were discussing setting and sticking to goals and she said, "Well I'm sure you always succeed. You have your shit together."

WHAT!?

I immediately jumped in. "Are you insane? I definitely do NOT always have my shit together," I reassured her.

Most of the time I am figuring it out along the way, just like you.

Most of the time I am second-guessing myself and fighting through fear, just like you.

Most of the time, I am really freaking scared.

The difference between people who seemingly have it all together and those who don't is simple: the ones who seem to have it together are the ones who don't give up. They are the ones who learn from their missteps and keep on going when others would have normally stopped. They are the ones who find a lesson in everything.

So no, I do not have my shit together, and I hope you know that. I just view obstacles and perceived failures as motivation. Want to tell me it can't be done? Watch me make it happen. Anyone can make up their mind to have that exact same outlook.

It's really that simple.

With love and bubbles,
Cara