Monday, September 1, 2014

Why You Must Indulge and Spoil Yourself as Often as Possible

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Happy Labor Day (if you're celebrating in the U.S.)! No matter what your work is, I know you bust your butt, so I want to wish you an extra special sparkly day of rest and rejuvenation today. I slept in until 9 am. That's like huge for me. And I loved every minute of it!

This holiday also got me thinking. Why do we wait to celebrate ourselves? Why do we have a special holiday that only rolls around once a year to honor the fact that we work so hard?

If you know me, you know I love to indulge as often as possible. I'll order a glass of champagne on a Tuesday afternoon just because. I'll treat myself to a blow dry and a massage for no reason other than the fact that I want to feel good. I'll splurge on a gorgeous pair of sparkly, fancy heels because I think they're pretty. And you know what? All of those things I mentioned are usually met with a question or comment by others.

"Why are you drinking champagne today? Are you celebrating something?"

"Oooh, a massage and blowout. You're really spoiling yourself, huh?"

"Why are you buying those shoes? Do you have a wedding coming up?"

Why do we always have to have a reason? Why can't we just treat ourselves like a queen every chance we get?

I don't know about you, but I'm tired of making an excuse for myself. This is my lifestyle, and it feels damn good. I work my tail off and I refuse to wait until a national holiday to celebrate that.

I encourage you to start doing the same. How can you add indulgence, luxury, and glamour to your life? Say it out loud and declare it to The Universe! I want to see you sparkle every day. You are a Champagne Girl, aren't you? ;)

Indulgently yours,
Cara

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

20 Ways to Channel Your Inner Champagne Girl

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I believe that every woman has an inner "Champagne Girl" deep within her. This is the part of ourselves that is fearless, fabulous, glamorous and inspired. By learning to channel her, you'll be able to add more effervescence to your life and your career!

Use my 20 tips to channel yours:

1. Celebrate something every day. No matter how big or small. Bonus points if you toast yourself with a gorgeous glass of champagne.

2. Indulge in something you love at least once a week. A pedicure, massage, blow dry, yoga class, etc. You deserve nothing less.

3. Turn off your phone for one hour each evening. We live in a world where we are on high alert at all times. Whether its the ping of a Facebook notification, a text message that you feel requires an immediate response, or emails delivered to our phone, we're constantly jolted by sounds that need our attention. By giving yourself a "tech-free" hour each night, you'll feel more at ease and sleep better. Champagne Girls need their beauty sleep!

4. Make an effort to look your best every single day. From the lipstick we choose to the way we accessorize our outfits, our personal style is a reflection of who we are in the world. And when you look good, you feel great.

5. Fill your home with fresh flowers as often as possible.

6. Do something outside of your comfort zone once a month. Try a new class at the gym, sign up for a course, volunteer for a local charity. Stretch yourself so you can continually grow and expand. I'm personally about to channel my inner Carrie Bradshaw and take at trapeze course on the West Side Highway soon. Join me!

7. Invest in yourself. Do not be cheap with yourself. Invest in whatever you need to grow: courses, a mentor, a vacation, a luxury designer handbag, a killer outfit for job interviews or dinner dates, etc. Note: this doesn't mean to go on mindless shopping sprees. Choose carefully what matters most to you and treat yourself!

8. Release what drains you. Life is too short to be surrounded by people or situations that do not bring you total joy. If someone is sucking the life out of you and making you feel like garbage, it's time to say buh-bye!

9. Travel. Open yourself up to new cultures and experiences. There is a big, beautiful world out there waiting for you. Go soak in every drop of it. If you can't afford to travel right now, immerse yourself in cultures in other ways. Go to a museum, dine out and enjoy a type of food you've never tried, etc.

10. Stop "blind shopping." As fun as it is to spontaneously treat yourself to things, take notice of when you're "blind shopping." Spend money on things you will put to good use rather than frivolous impulse buys. Respect the money you work hard for.

11. Make gratitude a daily practice. Be thankful for every single thing you have. Even on the bad days. Especially on the bad days.

12. Treat yourself to gorgeous underwear. When you know you're a wearing soft, delicate bra and underwear, you feel more connected to your feminine essence. And there is major power there.

13. Help others as often as you can. Do not hoard knowledge, opportunities, or connections. When you help others, it comes back to you ten fold. There is enough sparkle to go around!

14. Meditate. Even if you can only devote five minutes a day. Clearing your mind and making the time for yourself is invaluable. If you haven't read my latest book, pick it up and make sure you read the last chapter. I go into meditation and its benefits and how it can actually unlock the most creative, productive parts of yourself (I couldn't do half of what I do if I didn't spend time clearing my head!).

15. Find your voice. Stop biting your tongue and hiding your feelings. You can and should eloquently express yourself as often as you like.

16. Take a leap of faith. Do the thing you're most afraid of. It's the thing that will change your life for the better.

17. Connect. There is a huge, fabulous world of women out there just like you. They share your desires, fears, and dreams. Find them and connect with them. Build your tribe.

18. Create a "glam ritual." Before you go out at night, pour yourself a glass of champagne, make a playlist of your favorite songs, and set up a gorgeous space to do your hair and makeup and get ready.

19. Wear perfume. Find a few signature scents for each season that you absolutely adore. A spritz of perfume adds an instant dose of glamour. Bonus points if you wear it to bed (I do!)

20. Live inspired. Every day is a gift filled with beauty and inspiration. Look for it daily.


With love and bubbles,
Cara
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Sunday, August 24, 2014

Are You Open to Receive?

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This is a question I love asking my clients: Are you open to receive? "Receive what?" they usually ask. "Is it an object? A gift?" Receiving comes in many forms, but we have to clear our energy and open ourselves to it before it can actually happen.

Here's a quick visualization exercise I'd like you to do. Find a comfortable seated position and close your eyes. Inhale a big, deep breath. Exhale. Inhale again, exhale. With your eyes closed, let your mind wander. Allow it to take you to any place in the world. A place that feels safe and lush (mine happens to be the designer boutiques on King's Road in London, but that's just me.) Take notice of what you see. Is it sunny? Cloudy? Are you in another city? Another time period? Who is around you? Explore this place for a few moments, with your eyes still closed, inhaling and exhaling deeply. This place should feel amazing. It should feel like home.

Hopefully I haven't lost you yet. I know this stuff sounds hippy dippy, but stay with me. Please. 

Continue to visualize this fabulous place, and while you're picturing it, allow your inner muse to surface. If you've heard me talk about your inner muse, then you know exactly who she is. She is the woman deep inside of you who lives with purpose and passion. She is filled with ease and elegance. She is pure in her intentions. She is not fearful or anxious. She is the truest part of yourself. She is your inspiration. She is your guide.

Envision your inner muse walking toward you. You're about to meet her. What does it feel like? What does she look like? Take notice of her presence.

Imagine her giving you a message. What is she telling you? What do you need to know? She has the answer, and she's giving it to you right now. What does she want for you? What did she say?

Continue to breathe in and out, and hold her message in your mind for a few more moments. When you're ready, slowly open your eyes and return to your present space. Spend a few moments absorbing what just happened and allowing yourself to fully come-to. Write down the message your inner muse gave you and take some notes about the experience.

Feel free to return to this exercise any time you feel lost, anxious, or confused. Remember ladies, you can receive at any time. You just have to be open.

With love and bubbles,
Cara



Sunday, August 3, 2014

The #1 Reason You Are Unhappy

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Happiness is a massive discussion. And I don't intend to cover all areas in this post, but I do want to share something with you. In fact, what I'm about to share just may change your life.

Yes, it's that real.

A few short years ago, my life was in complete disarray. It felt like everything within my reach was crumbling and I had absolutely no control over my circumstances or my emotions. Weight issues, a job that sucked the life out of me, credit card debt through the roof, a relationship that made me second guess myself on a daily basis, and zero plans for the future outside of being trapped in a corporate job that did nothing other than supply me with money to go fuel my shopping addiction.

Sounds pretty bleak, huh? It was.

It took a lot of work to crawl out of that mess. But I did it. And can you guess what my first step was?

Facing my fears.

Fear of opening up my credit card statements. Fear of ending my relationship. Fear of finally taking control of my health and wellness. Fear of not walking into Louis Vuitton every time I got paid. Fear of creating a new and satisfying career and actually getting the balls to pursue it. Fear of living a life that was authentic.

The minute I faced those fears, and developed the courage to walk through them, I discovered happiness. As I tackled each area of my life, it felt like the skies opened up and angels sang to me. Literally. It was as if someone removed a blindfold from my eyes. It was slow, but it happened. For the first time in my life, I was happy.

So if you're feeling trapped, miserable, stuck, depressed, or lost, please know that everything is completely fixable.

You've just got to become fearless.

With love and bubbles,
Cara

PS - My new book, Fearless & Fabulous: 10 Powerful Strategies for Getting Anything You Want in Life is out now! What a great place to start your journey, huh? Click here to buy.

PPS - If you are interested in working with me and would like some intensive coaching around this very topic, email me to learn more about my programs.  

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Confession: I Do Not Have My Sh*t Together

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Last week, I was chatting with one of my clients and she said something very interesting. We were discussing setting and sticking to goals and she said, "Well I'm sure you always succeed. You have your shit together."

WHAT!?

I immediately jumped in. "Are you insane? I definitely do NOT always have my shit together," I reassured her.

Most of the time I am figuring it out along the way, just like you.

Most of the time I am second-guessing myself and fighting through fear, just like you.

Most of the time, I am really freaking scared.

The difference between people who seemingly have it all together and those who don't is simple: the ones who seem to have it together are the ones who don't give up. They are the ones who learn from their missteps and keep on going when others would have normally stopped. They are the ones who find a lesson in everything.

So no, I do not have my shit together, and I hope you know that. I just view obstacles and perceived failures as motivation. Want to tell me it can't be done? Watch me make it happen. Anyone can make up their mind to have that exact same outlook.

It's really that simple.

With love and bubbles,
Cara

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Why it's Good to be Miserable

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It's a gloomy Wednesday afternoon here in New York, and while I'd love nothing more than to snuggle under the covers with a hot cappuccino and watch a Bravo marathon, there's something on my mind that I want to talk to you about.

Are you happy?

Like really, truly happy? That's a hard question so I'll give you a second to contemplate it...

Whenever I ask my clients what they want in life, they all simply reply "I want to be happy." But what does that mean? Happiness seems to be this elusive thing that we all want, yet if asked what it is, we can't even define it.

To me, happiness is layered. It's not just a point we arrive at and then hang out at for the rest of our lives. It's work, it's a journey, it's an ongoing experience. I recently  watched Oprah interview Happiness Expert Shawn Achor, where he shared the secrets of happy people. He has a brilliant perspective on happiness, so I suggest checking it out if you can.

This interview made me think about my own life, and the lives of the women I work with. The opposite of happiness is sadness. And when most of us experience sadness, we take action to change it. But what's even worse is indifference, Shawn explains. When we're indifferent, we do nothing. We aren't happy, but we aren't sad, so we aren't motivated to do anything about it.

If you're feeling sad over a situation; whether it's a relationship, a crappy job, your living situation, etc., I encourage you to embrace that sadness for a bit. Really dig in to why you're upset, and why you need to change. Use that misery as a catalyst to make positive moves in the right direction to make your life as amazing as it should be.

Remember, creating your Champagne Life means inviting only the best of the best into your world, and eliminating the crap. So if a can of Coors Light has made it's way into your Krug cabinet, it's time to take out the trash.

With love and bubbles,
Cara

Monday, February 10, 2014

How to Create Your Dom Pérignon Life on a Korbel Budget

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Whenever I talk about creating a "Champagne Life" I get a very similar comment: that sounds expensive. And I can understand why! When we talk about champagne, a myriad of words come to mind. Glamour, luxury, celebrity, indulgence are just a few thoughts that a glass of champagne might bubble up (pun totally intended). And while channeling your inner Zsa Zsa Gábor can be ultra fab, that's not what I'm talking about here. Creating a Champagne Life has very little to do with money and very much to do with self-worth.

The main concept behind The Champagne Diet is creating a lifestyle that invites only the best of the best: the best relationships, the best work, the best foods, the best friends, the list goes on. It also means celebrating life every single day. And the best part? It is completely possible to elevate your every day with just a few small intentional, inexpensive tweaks.

When is the last time you took a long, peaceful bubble bath? Or turned off your phone and read a book for a half hour? Or bought yourself a beautiful bouquet of flowers? Only until you value yourself enough to indulge in the things that make you happy are you able to tap into the deepest part of yourself. The part that is creative, exciting, joyful and grateful every single day.

I've had a busy couple of days, so I knew that yesterday I had to clear out some time for myself. I picked up a bottle of Yellowtail pink bubbly (which retails for just about $10 bucks and happens to be deeeee-licious), lit my candles, and relaxed with my feet up next to my little bouquet of $8 silk flowers I found at TJ Maxx. I spent the early evening setting my intentions for the week and letting go of all the stress and thoughts that do not serve me (which luckily is completely free to do. Seriously. Dreaming and planning has no price tag yet it's so costly not to do it). Look at this photo and tell me this does not look like the most luxurious scene?


For this week, think about a few ways you can create your Champagne Life. Tweet me or leave a comment on Facebook and tell me what your plans are!